Dziennik katrinat, 06 cze 08

Hey Kat. Definitely not out of line. After all…this is the kind of stuff that makes many of us emotional eaters…eat. So I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough with us all in here to be able to vent about it…and to ask for some advice and support. =) In my opinion you should definitely be given access to the online phone bill, especially if its being questioned. My parents are actually going through some hard times right now..they have been married for 43 years this year. One of the biggest gripes is that my mom doesn't know what the bills are that my dad is "hiding"….the phone bill is one of those bills, the other is the Amex bill. My husband has access to all my files and actually also knows all the passwords to my email accounts even, because I know he would never go in there without a good reason, and I have nothing to hide. He even made a list of all his passwords to all his accounts and we have them in a lockbox so god forbid anything ever happened to him, I would be able to function with the monthly bills. So, in summary, I don’t feel you are out of line for asking for the new password, especially if you had it in the past. I'm really sorry that he's throwing around "needing a break" to you, that is never easy to hear. How long have you been married? Hang in there, we are here for you.  

Girl, of coarse it's cool... we're all hear for support and we all know that emotions can really run our eating habits, too. I love ya, and it'll work out. Deep breath, have a cup of tea, be the great person that you know you are and hold true to your heart. Call me... lylas xoxo :) 

Hi. You obviously havent read other peoples journals because you would see that we all have shared personal issues here. You are right we are friends and we are all here for you. I am going through the exact same problem with my hubby, he never tells me anything about our finances. I have also recently argued about similar issues as yours. My advice would be to say "I will stop asking you if you can give me a good reason why you wont share the password with me. I just need a valid reason so that I can try and understand this because at the moment it doesnt. When you dont communicate, it leads to more suspicion and hostility and I really dont want that". Personally, I see a couple of red flags and the line about wanting a break is a really big one..that is a very passive aggressive method of getting you to back off. By intimidating you with the threat of a separation, he is probably hoping that you stop asking, which you by the way you are absolutely right to do. Play it calm and he will end up showing his true colors. Good luck and if you need a shoulder..email me.  

We have been together for almost 17 years... Most of my adult life! Obviously I know there's something up, just not sure how bad to think it is. I hope it all works out..... 

Just sent you an email...... 

Definitely not out of line at all. I don't know how to help you except to say that we're here for you and pray that everything works out in your best interests. 

Hey chicca... how ya doin'?? Give me a call! :) 

I was with my ex 13 years, secret accounts, passwords...yuck. When he left me I thought I was just going to die, puking until I started throwing up blood. It's such an emotional time when ever there are relationship issues. I'm sending you an email and please know I'm thinking of you and we are here for you, vent away. *hugs*